End Stage Alcoholism...watching a person slowly kill themselves.....
If you have ever know anyone close to you that is or was an alcoholic then you know how frustrating it is to see the person throw their life away.
My maid of honor at my wedding used to be an IT genius. To quote another friend of hers that used to work for her, "she could make a computer dance". On all accounts she was bright, sociable and was running a thriving business up until a few years ago. Just like most people I know , she would be a social drinker, and yes , just like allot of the other Scandinavians she could hold her liquor.
She did have issues through out the years, as we all do, but one of the things she always struggled with was her weight. I still remember having to tell her when we were looking for dresses for the bridesmaids and her maid of honor dress, that the dress size we had to order for her wasn't the true size as stated on the tag, that all bridesmaid dress are smaller then the size stated.... She needed to hear that as she was devastated in having to order a size 28 and then having the seamstress add fabric to the dress to make it fit. That was over 11 years ago....
About 6 years ago , she decided that the only solution to her weight problems was to have gastric bypass surgery. ( The reality is that food can be an addiction , just as much as drugs or alcoholism. If you do not address the root of the problem, you are going to replace the food addiction with something else. ) She did not want to discuss this surgery with her family and friends, we all found out about it a few days before the surgery was to take place. She would not listen to those of us that were concerned about taking such a drastic step.
There were complications and the long and short of it was that she almost died 2 times , and was in the hospital, and then a nursing home, for almost a year after the initial surgery.
Well she lost the weight , but over the last 4 years she started drinking more and more. Looking back now, the signs were there but we all just kept chalking it up to stress, running her own business, keeping things afloat after her surgery and recovery, etc...
There was always an excuse why things were not going right, her losing customers , etc.... in these last two years, she started getting in trouble with the law, was arrested a number of times, but her sales skills kept her from having all but the closest of us friends really see what was happening.
It was never her fault, etc... There was the constant denial, finally, she got a DUI ( I'm surprised it took so long) , the first one was 4 months ago, the last one was 2 months ago. Her house is in foreclosure , she has the final sale the first week of August, all her utilities except for the electrical are shut off, and she still refuses to stop drinking!
Since mid June, she spent 6 weeks in the county jail , got out 4 weeks ago, had a court date that she blew off because she was drunk, got jailed again over the 4th of July weekend because of the missed court date, got out after 10 days, and then she wasn't out of jail 24 hours before she went on a drinking bender again!
She lives just down the street from us so here it is 5 days latter and every day we check on her , and every day she is either passed out or in a drunken stupor. We keep taking away and dumping the vodka, but apparently she has someone in the neighborhood who keeps buying it for her.
We've contacted her church and counselor, the counselor confirmed that the reality is that unless she wants to stop drinking, no one can make her! She is an "end stage alcoholic" and there is a good chance we may end up finding her dead one of these days when we check up on her.
Our final step is trying to get the police to come out and do a wellness check on her, and hopefully when they find her unresponsive in a drunken stupor , they would take her to a hospital where they could evaluate her and get her into a state run/mandated program.... if that doesn't happen, I know in my heart that I will be attending a funeral soon....
Please say a prayer, if your are so inclined for her... and all those like her... they need all the prayers possible....
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My maid of honor at my wedding used to be an IT genius. To quote another friend of hers that used to work for her, "she could make a computer dance". On all accounts she was bright, sociable and was running a thriving business up until a few years ago. Just like most people I know , she would be a social drinker, and yes , just like allot of the other Scandinavians she could hold her liquor.
She did have issues through out the years, as we all do, but one of the things she always struggled with was her weight. I still remember having to tell her when we were looking for dresses for the bridesmaids and her maid of honor dress, that the dress size we had to order for her wasn't the true size as stated on the tag, that all bridesmaid dress are smaller then the size stated.... She needed to hear that as she was devastated in having to order a size 28 and then having the seamstress add fabric to the dress to make it fit. That was over 11 years ago....
About 6 years ago , she decided that the only solution to her weight problems was to have gastric bypass surgery. ( The reality is that food can be an addiction , just as much as drugs or alcoholism. If you do not address the root of the problem, you are going to replace the food addiction with something else. ) She did not want to discuss this surgery with her family and friends, we all found out about it a few days before the surgery was to take place. She would not listen to those of us that were concerned about taking such a drastic step.
There were complications and the long and short of it was that she almost died 2 times , and was in the hospital, and then a nursing home, for almost a year after the initial surgery.
Well she lost the weight , but over the last 4 years she started drinking more and more. Looking back now, the signs were there but we all just kept chalking it up to stress, running her own business, keeping things afloat after her surgery and recovery, etc...
There was always an excuse why things were not going right, her losing customers , etc.... in these last two years, she started getting in trouble with the law, was arrested a number of times, but her sales skills kept her from having all but the closest of us friends really see what was happening.
It was never her fault, etc... There was the constant denial, finally, she got a DUI ( I'm surprised it took so long) , the first one was 4 months ago, the last one was 2 months ago. Her house is in foreclosure , she has the final sale the first week of August, all her utilities except for the electrical are shut off, and she still refuses to stop drinking!
Since mid June, she spent 6 weeks in the county jail , got out 4 weeks ago, had a court date that she blew off because she was drunk, got jailed again over the 4th of July weekend because of the missed court date, got out after 10 days, and then she wasn't out of jail 24 hours before she went on a drinking bender again!
She lives just down the street from us so here it is 5 days latter and every day we check on her , and every day she is either passed out or in a drunken stupor. We keep taking away and dumping the vodka, but apparently she has someone in the neighborhood who keeps buying it for her.
We've contacted her church and counselor, the counselor confirmed that the reality is that unless she wants to stop drinking, no one can make her! She is an "end stage alcoholic" and there is a good chance we may end up finding her dead one of these days when we check up on her.
Our final step is trying to get the police to come out and do a wellness check on her, and hopefully when they find her unresponsive in a drunken stupor , they would take her to a hospital where they could evaluate her and get her into a state run/mandated program.... if that doesn't happen, I know in my heart that I will be attending a funeral soon....
Please say a prayer, if your are so inclined for her... and all those like her... they need all the prayers possible....
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posted by Baltic Waves at 1:02 PM
3 Comments:
Nice post if you want to have a better lifestyle you have to stopping drink alcohol and you are less likely to suffer ED and you don't need Generic Viagra
Good information this is a problem that have a slow progress but affect you in many aspects I had a experience whit this problem but I found my own solution.
my mother in my opinion end stage too..I am taking care of her.this means making sure she eats or rather has the opportunity to eat and yes getting her vodka..ita all she wants..30 yrs alcoholism..last 10 hit it pretty heavy,,falls alot, subderual hematomas, seizures, broken bones knocked out her front teeth 3 times now..been to the best of rehab facilities and the not so nice ones..detox hospital stays due to her falling injuries..ALWAYS return to the vodka..its sad,,my sister walked away 5 yrs ago she lives in another state which makes it easier..i live in same town,,she now lives with me..some days I wish I could have walked away. definetly tough to watch,
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